The Jay Z Effect

I previously wrote an article that explained my theory ‘The Beyonce Effect’ which centered around yourself and people you see as ‘god like figures’. One gloomy afternoon sat on the sofa with the house, the topic of conversation being relationships between sips of warm coffee saw the birth of ‘The Jay Z effect’. 

The conversation between me, Chris and Beth stated ‘Jay Z cheated on Beyonce, BEYONCE! The queen and he’s underpar for her’ until you take a step back and take off those love goggles you have desperately been trying to keep on your face for this whole time, you will not see the situation for what it is. There's actually two beings, the one you are involved with and the actual person. Much like Jay Z being the other half of such a powerful famous couple and moreover, the world was shocked by Jay Z causing infidelity within his marriage. 

Lets dance with the gruesome truth shall we?

You are not in love with them, you’re in love with their potential and the false promises they made you. You fabricate a perfect facade of this person based on what you dreamed them to be like, the false realities you created in your head, the false hope that's been planted into your very being. That's what you are disappointed in when it all ends, not them. 
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Here's the horrifying reality, being ghosted after you have made endless amounts of effort, accepting what they recall as flaws and being a support system through their dark times is actually horrendous and such a sickening feeling to consume. The disappointment of a relationship falling flat is overwhelming, it consumes your whole body, emotions and thought process. This turns your heart cold. We have loved, liked and lost 100 hundred times but over the melancholic dark cloud that hangs over our heads the silver lining is discovering what type of person we require. 

For me, I think the thing that I suffer most is the self doubt that devours my entity, it swallows components of my confidence I have taken years to fabricate and I hate it. However, we can’t let that happen, we need to be the person we have elevated into and slay it. I am trying desperately to understand myself and taking a break from men is something I now need to do and this is completely okay to do! Beating yourself up and comparing yourself to people who are in relationships because you are not in one is not needed, at all. 

Just because a person has stopped loving or liking you doesn't mean your life stops. Let your body go through the emotions it requires and then return stronger than ever.

​Also the majority will come crawling back, watch that space.